Comments on: Vegetarians and Carnivores Living Together: Ideas for Keeping Peace in the Kitchen

By: Anna

Anna — Wed, 15 Jan 2025 17:14:49 +0000

In reply to Mat. This is what happened to me. Gradually, we became meatless to suit my vegan husband. When I saw that it went too far and wanted meat again, I became the enemy and the immoral person. There was no respect for my decisions and no compromise for my lifestyle choices.

By: Anna

Anna — Wed, 15 Jan 2025 17:10:11 +0000

In reply to Booboo. How did your relationship hold up? I’ve been going through the same. It’s complicated and awful. I hate it and wish I had my husband back. The whole vegan lifestyle and all the people in it have made him obnoxious, obsessive about all foods and just not the man I married. I tried for 6 whole years to eat very close to his diet (mostly I was vegetarian) tried to keep us close and together and our marriage afloat… I ended up resentful and hating myself for not being true to me and what I wanted. Now we are right back where we started 7 years ago with a giant wedge between us but now it’s worse.

By: Cher

Cher — Tue, 18 Oct 2022 23:02:29 +0000

Than you for this blog. I too have a vegetarian and a picky carnivore. I can do both, but try and stay away from the white stuff. Anywho,, I look forward in scanning your recipes for ideas. I work limited time to prepare and cook. When I cook, I like to cook enough for leftovers.

By: Shyam

Shyam — Wed, 09 Jun 2021 07:19:12 +0000

I think the author here is clearly biased to show vegetarians and the veg diet are superior and compromises are important. Why have separate dishes for cooking? Why cant the veg partner use the same dishes? We live in the 21’st century, not the medieval age, do we?

By: N

Tue, 16 Feb 2021 14:51:49 +0000

If he does not know how to cook.. so, I’ll be making all of our meals.. then how can I prepare for him non-vegan/vegetarian meals?

By: Kare

Kare — Mon, 07 Sep 2020 00:04:18 +0000

In reply to George. Thank you so much for sharing. And oh gosh, I'm going to have to replicate that mac and cheese / BBQ situation because that sounds so delicious!

By: George

George — Fri, 05 Jun 2020 01:40:30 +0000

I was vegetarian for 14 years but started eating meat again 4 years ago. During which I met my partner who never had been vegetarian or liked any vegetables for that matter. Ever since we’ve been together I’ve tried to get him to eat his veggies but you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make em drink. I recently returned to a vegetarian diet and it’s been really rough for him. I’m excited to try out some of the recipes here. On a positive and slightly funny not today I made us homemade baked Mac and cheese and I had a large salad and bbq tofu and he had bbq chicken and corn on the cob.

By: Kimberly M

Kimberly M — Tue, 07 Apr 2020 14:07:11 +0000

We are a multicore family. I have been veg for 2.5 years and vegan for 2 weeks, and he is a meat eater. I like a lot of different flavors and he likes really plain foods so we typically eat totally different meals. Like I’ll make him a frozen breakfast sandwich or a chicken quesadilla and I’ll make myself something international. I don’t like cooking meat but don’t mind heating up already cooked meat fof him. He is disabled, and has an aid come in so I’ll have the aid cook the meat when it needs cooked(rarely). I don’t like the smell in the house but I don’t mind either going outside for a while or I’ll just deal for the couple hours until it goes away. We don’t cook meat for him that often. We cook meat for the cat twice a month because she has digestive issues and can’t eat regular food, but that’s not that often either so I don’t mind.

By: Kare

Kare — Fri, 31 Jan 2020 18:06:59 +0000

In reply to Sha.

Hi Sha! Oh man, that is tough. I do have to say I think it might be easier to keep the peace when you’re in the “honeymoon” period … a little more difficult as we evolve as the years go by. I’m able to have meat in the house so that makes things a little easier for us but I COMPLETELY understand how you just simply can’t do it. I wish I had an easy answer or solution for you. It’s frustrating that those boundaries that you both agreed to in the beginning are really being pushed now.

By: Sha

Sha — Wed, 29 Jan 2020 12:00:07 +0000

Thanks for your post. The comments were also useful to read and consider people’s points if view. I’ve been vegetarian for 30+ years and married for 10+. My husband respected my no-meat-in-the-house request in the beginning, but little by little has been bringing it in. He started a fitness program the last few years where he needs to eat clean chicken everyday. He made an outdoor kitchen and cooks outside in the dead of winter, but he brings it in to eat and the house reeks (to me, not to him) to the point that I need to leave. If I complain he gets explosively angry, probably because he’s trying so hard to be respectful. I know it’s all about compromise, but he married a vegetarian and I feel like he’s changing the rules. He thinks I’m being unreasonable. I wouldn’t have married anyone who wouldn’t have respected vegetarianism in the home, but at this point it would only be hurtful to say so. This has been a hard issue for us.